(5a)Projecting into my future, I see a very good plan for adoption.Specifically, I view myself permanently adopting a child so that Ican provide a bright future for those children in the Department ofSocial Services. This would be one of my ways of giving back to thesociety.
(7)I want to become a resource family because I need to have anadditional child who will make my family. Additionally, I intend tohelp the child grow in a good environment having a family.
(8)I am not a relative
(9)I am able to get children biologically. As such, the intention ofbecoming a resource family is to help a child grown in a familyenvironment as opposed to a care center.
(10)My spouse has welcomed the idea, as he is also passionate aboutchildren. We share the same ideas that a child has the right to be ina good family environment.
Placement/AdoptionIssues and Special Needs
(11)I understand that the children available for adoption/placementthrough the Department of Social Services are victims of unfortunatecircumstances that calls for foster care. These include child neglectand abuse.
(12)Permanency is important for children as it ensures stability.Specifically, children will get used to the same environment and,thereby, have stable growth. I am ready to commit to a childpermanently as I would to bring up this child as my own.
(13)I feel that it is important that children are assisted to recoverfrom the memories of any unfortunate incidences that occurred intheir lives. As such, I would gladly assist the child attendtherapy/counselling sessions and do my one therapeutic sessionsthrough trying to erase those memories of the past.
(14)I would help a child with learning disability/special needs bynegotiating a specific education process that would be cognizant oftheir disabilities. Additionally, I would personally ensure that thechild gets all the materials necessary for his/her learning needs.
(15)I would support the reunification of children with theirparents/guardians through proper planning. In this regard, I wouldcollaborate with the children’s parents/guardians in planning forthe reunification. Additionally, I would offer the services andsupports that would guarantee a safe return.
(16)I think that those parents feel very lonely and violated. However, inmy view, the interests of the child should come first. As such, theparenting rights should be terminated until the parents show thatthey can actually keep the child safe and secure.
(17)While caring for the child during family unification, I am willing tohave a very close relationship with the childbirth relative andformer foster parents. This is because I will need to know the likesand dislikes of the child and I may as well get this from therelatives and former foster parents. However, I will be very carefulwith the information I get from them.
(17a)after an adoption, I would prefer not to have any relationship withthe adoptive child’s both parents, relatives, or foster parents.This is because they might destroy my relationship with the childthrough giving me information that is untrue about the child.
(23)I think there is a difference between parenting birth children andparenting adopted ones. This is because a parent of a birth childwould have the privilege of knowing the child since he/she was born.However, a guardian of an adopted child would not have thisinformation. Additionally, for a birth child, there is no pressure asto the threat of parenting rights being terminated while adoptiveparents would take care of the child with care, as the threat of therights being terminated is very high.
(23a)my partner and I parent as a united front. This is because we admitthat each of us has a role in ensuring that the child is safe. Thereare no different parenting responsibilities that are assigned but wedo all without differentiation.
(24)I plan to use several types of discipline for the child. One of themis talking with them when they make a mistake. In this regard, I willknow the reason behind the indiscipline and thereby correct thechild. Additionally, I will use actions instead of words.Specifically, I would, without getting angry, show the child, whathe/she should have done.
(25)Children would require the basics of life during their childhood.Specifically, they would require food, warmth, shelter, and clothing.They would also need to feel safe and secure where they stay.Additionally, children would need to be loved. Meeting their everydayneeds is an indispensable thing for children.
(26)For a teenager to be prepared for transitioning to adulthood there isneed for him/he to have discussion with an adult about his/herstrengths and weaknesses. Additionally, the teenagers will need to beequipped with the various challenges as well as increasedresponsibilities that they will encounter. Moreover, calculating apurposeful mindset to the teenagers is imperative in the transitionto adulthood.
(27)With children, I mostly like playing with them and seeing them feelhappy. Additionally, I would like to evaluate their abilities throughtelling them to do what they do best. More importantly, I wouldmostly like to share stories with children and evaluate how they willbe able to comprehend those stories.
(28)I would evaluate first why the child got into trouble. In so doing, Iwould be concerned on the circumstances surrounding the trouble.Irrespective of who was at fault, I would advise the child to avoidtroubles and show him/her how he/she should react in case a similarincidence occurs in the future.
(29)My rules about privacy are based on respect. Specifically, areas suchas the bedroom for adults are private and children should knockbefore they enter. Additionally, anything that has not been declaredotherwise in the home remains to be private.
(30)I would be comfortable caring for children who question theiridentity and who identify themselves as gay, lesbians, ortransgendered. This is because they have right to their sexuality.However, I would seek to know their reasoning behind it and advisethem accordingly.
(30a)I would support them in their struggle to find their identitiesthrough advising them not to worry. I would play down the issue oftheir identity and eventually take them to a counsellor who wouldhelp them identify their identity and thereby make them comfortable.
(31)I would support a child’s religious preferences by trying tounderstand their choice of religion. I would seek to be sure thattheir preference was freely made or out of coercion. I would thensupport them by allowing the child to attend the preferred religiousgatherings and prayers.
Familyof Origin History
(32)I was born in Ottawa and had four siblings including two brothers andtwo sisters. I was born of two parents as well as grandparents. Welived as a nuclear family.
(33)My mother was so loving and caring and used to ensure that I goteverything that I needed. My relationship with my mother was verygood and lovely with no incidences of war of words or indiscipline.
(34)My father was very good to me and took his responsibilities as thehead of the family. However, since he worked far from home, I did notget to enjoy a lot of time with him. Nevertheless, when he was athome, he was a very caring man.
(35)I had no issues with my sibling with the only differences comingduring our childhood on the responsibilities that we had. We had avery good relationship and no cases of infights or violence.
(36)During my childhood, my parents demonstrated their affection towardsme and my sibling through surprises. For instance, they wouldsurprise us with new clothes. Additionally, they would unexpectedlytake us out and show us how they loved us. They would also say itopenly that they loved us.
(36a)to express their affection towards each other, they would eat fromthe same plate and hold hands while walking in the streets.Additionally, they would casually kiss.
(36b)to express their disappointment with me and my siblings they wouldappear very sad and take a few moments before they talk to us.
(36c)when they were disappointed with each other, they would rarely talkand when we asked them, they would just say everything was ok.
(36d)our parents would usually shout at my siblings and me if they wereangry at our acts or omissions.
(36e)to express anger towards each other, my parents used to quarrel to anextent that we were forced to get worried.
(37)My father was a teacher while my mother was a nurse practitioner.
(42)As a child, I was very joyous and disciplined. Although sometimes Igot into problems, I did so out of adventure and never disobeyed myparents. As a teenager, I was a bit rude and big headed. As such, Igot into problems with my parents and siblings.
(43)My childhood was very educative as I did many adventurous things.From the relationship between my parents as well as my parents and I,I have learnt that I should love my children and learn to correctthem when they make mistakes as sometimes they did so unknowingly.
(44)My parents were very conservative towards sex and sexuality.Actually, they never talked about the topic until I was eighteen.They were categorical that sex was for married couple and notchildren. This made me have a very fearful attitude towards sex andsexuality, as I tend to think that it is a moral wrong.
(45)My personality traits are those of good temperament and discipline. Ilike the fact that I can handle situations calmly even when they arevery tense. However, I would like to change my behavior of stressingmyself over things that do not concern me.
(46)There was a time where I was extremely angry with the professor forfailing to avail my marks for one unit. However, I composed myselfand controlled my anger and my feelings such that the professor didnot even understand whether I was so much unimpressed.
(47)In handling anger, I first admit that it is okay to get angry, asthere are situations that arise which I cannot prevent. Afterwards, Icompose myself and say that I have to take control of myself. Iconfront the angering situation and try as much as possible to detachmy emotions.
(48)I have never used drugs but I have occasionally taken alcohol. In thepast, I was not addicted as I used to take a few bottles. However,currently, I feel like I have to take two or three bottles everyweekend.
(49)Religion has been very helpful in my disciplined and respectfulgrowth. Actually, most of the values that I have today have beenobtained from my religion. As such, it is a very critical element ofmy life as it gives me hope and offers me a sense of belonging.
(50)I have relationship with my significant other who happens to be myfiancé. We have been dating for over five years. During this period,we have developed very strong ties and have actually seen each otheras a family.
(55a)we have known each other for ten years. We met on the streets as wewere staying in the same neighborhood. Prior to that, we had beenseeing each other but without talking about anything serious. On thisfirst meeting, we exchanged contacts and continued to be in touch.
(56)My significant other is very funny and loving. When we are together,I am always laughing. Even when we are not in good terms, we laugh alot, as there is a lot of humor in our talk. The person is veryloving and caring considering that when I am sick, he is alwaysavailable to see me recover.
(56a)I like his determination and optimism. Even when something seemsimprobable, he still sees a way in which it can be handled.Additionally, he is much disciplined and would always talk to peoplewith respect irrespective of their social status.
(56b)although it is hard to say what can be changed in him, I would likehim to be more serious as he has the tendency of using humor inserious situations. Although this serves to eliminate any tension,people might misunderstand it for disrespect.
(57)We show affection through spending as much time as possible together.Specifically, we kiss, caress, and even get intimate. As a show ofaffection, we go on holidays and spend some time in unfamiliarenvironments while talking about our future.
(58)The strength in our relationship is that it is built on love and isvery stable. However, there is no certainty as to what will happen inthe future.
(59)In the moments of arguments, we handle them by lowering our tones andcomposing ourselves. Our disagreements are solved throughconversations and admitting our mistakes.
(60)The stressful time is when we have to be far from each other and ourcommitments cannot allow us to meet regularly. However, we talkthrough social media and skype. We persevere until when we can meet.
FamilyChallenges and Stressors
(64)My stress arises from the probability of failing to achieve myacademic and life goals. I manage this stress by talking to myfriends and mentors who offer me guidance on how to stop worryingabout things that I have no control over.
(65)My most challenging times in my life are when I had to leave myparents and stay close to campus, settling in a new place andexplaining to my parents why I needed to take this course and not theothers.
(66a)there have been various traumatic incidences that have caused medistress. One of those is watching an individual being robbed atgunpoint. Additionally, watching the executions by the ISIS has beenvery traumatic. I have dealt with those through visiting apsychologist.
(67)I have experienced the loss of my cousin and best friend throughdeath. I dealt with it by admitting that he was gone and trying totake control of my own emotions.
(68)In the event of a loss, I have always consulted other people andshared the story with my friends. This way, I have been advised onhow I should respond to the situation. From these conversations, Ihave felt relived and hence got over the loss.
(68a)there is a moment when I had to consult a counsellor this was due tothe trauma that I experienced after watching an individual beingrobbed at gunpoint. It made me so depressed such that I had to seekcounselling to get over the issue.
Descriptionof Children in the Home
(69)There are three children in my home. Two of them are my youngersiblings with one a girl (Hillary Sanders) and the other one a boy(Barrack Bernie). The third child is my cousin named Donald Claire.They are very disciplined and organized children who are welcoming.Additionally, they live in harmony and share some of theresponsibilities among themselves.
Descriptionof Other Adults in the Home
(70)My fiancé Kennedy Atkinson and I are the only adults in the home.However, Atkinson only visits in the weekends and is, therefore, notreadily there unlike the children in the home.
(71)I live in my own house in the suburbs of the city. I have been livingthere for the last four years. The house is strategically located ina secure place and has the necessary social amenities. It has a verybig living room and six bedrooms. Additionally, it has sevenbathrooms with each bedroom having its own bathroom.
(72)Besides my current occupation, there are other job positions that Ihave held. I have worked in another healthcare facility in thedepartment of children care additionally I have casually beenemployed in the care facilities whereby I was supposed to look afterthe aged. I left each job in search for better opportunities. Assuch, I made resignations in the previous job positions.
(73)I have always loved schooling since I was a child. As such, everyopportunity to advance my education comes as a source of happiness tome. I enjoyed the challenging nature of academics. After my highschool, I went to college before pursuing a degree in nursing.Additionally, I have also undergone short courses in the nursingarea.
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